Thursday, June 9, 2016

There is a huge difference between sex with a consenting adult and abuse


When people hear the word "incest", they automatically associate it with abuse. I would like to point out that rape, sex between an adult and a minor, sexual assault, coercion, forced marriage, and child abuse are all horrifying, and damaging to the victim. We have laws that are in place to help deter and prevent these abusive atrocities, and with good reason. 

There is a huge difference between these horribly abusive acts, and sex between consenting adults though. Abusive atrocities deserve heavy penalties and prosecution to the full extent under the law. Sex between consenting adults should not be prosecuted, discriminated against or shamed for sharing love. 

If you are a victim of abuse, I want you to know that you are not alone. And that there are resources to help you heal from the abuse you have suffered. A few I will mention are HAVOCA (Help for Adult Victims of Child Abuse), ASCA (Adult Survivors of Child Abuse), and several others. There are also counselors and psychiatrists in your area that you can google to find. There is no shame in seeking help when you have been a victim of abuse.

For anyone who is a consenting adult in a consensual relationship with another adult consenting family member, you are not alone either. And there is no shame in being in a healthy, happy and loving relationship, even if it is with another adult family member, or even if you are polyamorous and are in consenting relationships with more than one consenting adult.

Relationships between consenting adults whether it be monogamous, polyamorous, polygamous, etc are beautiful. In today's world, many families that fit the social norm suffer from physical, emotional abuse, estrangement, alienation, and divorce. It is sad that these things happen, but we cannot deny the fact that it is quite common. Just as people who are in unconventional relationships that are happy, loving, and are not abusive in any way should not be persecuted, but rather they should be accepted. I mean, as long as everyone is consenting and happy, and nobody is being abused, it is absurd to penalize, prosecute, and discriminate against them. Nor should society try and shame them or make them feel bad for loving another person. They are not hurting anyone.

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